Recently, The Mr. did something that I would love to see become common place in today's jewel-filled world. But I get ahead of myself (I tend to do that.). I should start at the beginning of this story. It is, after all, a proposal story...
It started 15 years ago when this guy I knew finally decided he liked me. Fast forward about a decade and he decided that maybe we ought to get married. So we did. And because we can't do anything in a traditional manner, we got married on a Friday the 13th. But it was the next day that wasn't quite as lucky for us.
You see, when The Mr. finally popped the big question, he knew what stone kind of stone to get but not what setting. I can be a bit particular. So in what was stroke of brilliance, he popped the question with my chosen stone in a plain band with the words, "So you can still wear it until you design the setting you want." Brilliant. Superbly brilliant.
That design process took a bit but when it was completed, that simple band got a new life with another stone - a smokey topaz that I loved and already had in my stone collection.
So although we bucked tradition and got married on a typically superstitious date, the next day truly was the day with the bad luck when someone broke into our house and stole the vast majority of my jewelry - including that sentimental band with the smokey topaz in it.
The culprit was never caught - nor were any of my jewels recovered. I was devastated! Not just about that plain band but also about all of the sentimental pieces such as my great-grandmother's pearls, the ring my parents gave me on my Sweet 16 and more.
But this past Christmas, The Mr. did the next best thing to recovering the original - he got me another plain, stoneless, platinum semi-mount! And to make it even more special, this year also happens to be our five year anniversary!
I spent the next few months trying to decide - Colored stone? Stone shape? Diamond? Stone size? And more. Finally, I made the decision to stick with tradition and use an existing stone from my collection. A stone that was a bit atypical for my personality type - especially by those who know me well.
I chose a half carat, chunky heart shaped diamond. Later on, I would come to find a matching antique, platinum eternity wedding band in the shape of hearts from one of my favorite sellers, Addy's Vintage, that could be resized by another of my favorite jewelers, Tivol. Together, the two are the perfect match!
Occasionally, I would switch out and wear the heart set in place of my actual wedding set. You know, a gal's got to stir things up a bit sometimes!
However, recently I have taken to wearing the heart set on my right hand. I mean, really, is there such a thing as wearing too many diamonds? I say, emphatically, NO! And in this case, both rings have a level of sentimentality for me that really is quite special.
So, I ask: "Why can't we wear engagement/wedding sets on our right hands as well? Especially sentimental ones? Heck, why can't we stack multiple engagement rings on our right hand like stacking bands? I mean, I can honestly propose that the perfect gift is a new engagement ring every five years to be worn as right hand stacking rings. Makes anniversary shopping easy; wouldn't you say?!
What I would really love to hear are your thoughts! Post a comment below and let me know your thoughts on the right hand engagement ring debate.
It started 15 years ago when this guy I knew finally decided he liked me. Fast forward about a decade and he decided that maybe we ought to get married. So we did. And because we can't do anything in a traditional manner, we got married on a Friday the 13th. But it was the next day that wasn't quite as lucky for us.
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| Our wedding sets taken on the day of the wedding. |
You see, when The Mr. finally popped the big question, he knew what stone kind of stone to get but not what setting. I can be a bit particular. So in what was stroke of brilliance, he popped the question with my chosen stone in a plain band with the words, "So you can still wear it until you design the setting you want." Brilliant. Superbly brilliant.
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| From our wedding, I wanted a cushion cut stone. The history of the cut itself is what originally drew me to the cut itself. |
That design process took a bit but when it was completed, that simple band got a new life with another stone - a smokey topaz that I loved and already had in my stone collection.
So although we bucked tradition and got married on a typically superstitious date, the next day truly was the day with the bad luck when someone broke into our house and stole the vast majority of my jewelry - including that sentimental band with the smokey topaz in it.
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| Sometimes, it's nice to be able to switch up your wedding set(s)! |
The culprit was never caught - nor were any of my jewels recovered. I was devastated! Not just about that plain band but also about all of the sentimental pieces such as my great-grandmother's pearls, the ring my parents gave me on my Sweet 16 and more.
But this past Christmas, The Mr. did the next best thing to recovering the original - he got me another plain, stoneless, platinum semi-mount! And to make it even more special, this year also happens to be our five year anniversary!
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| The .51 carat heart cut diamond from my personal collection is an exact carat weight match for the cushion cut stone The Mr. originally proposed with. Other than the shape, the only other differences between this stone & my cushion cut stone are the color & clarity. |
I spent the next few months trying to decide - Colored stone? Stone shape? Diamond? Stone size? And more. Finally, I made the decision to stick with tradition and use an existing stone from my collection. A stone that was a bit atypical for my personality type - especially by those who know me well.
I chose a half carat, chunky heart shaped diamond. Later on, I would come to find a matching antique, platinum eternity wedding band in the shape of hearts from one of my favorite sellers, Addy's Vintage, that could be resized by another of my favorite jewelers, Tivol. Together, the two are the perfect match!
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| The heart shaped platinum eternity band from Addy's Vintage has quickly become one of the favorites in my collection of antique wedding bands. I've never seen an eternity band with engraved hearts in this format before & it's a perfect match for the diamond heart. |
Occasionally, I would switch out and wear the heart set in place of my actual wedding set. You know, a gal's got to stir things up a bit sometimes!
However, recently I have taken to wearing the heart set on my right hand. I mean, really, is there such a thing as wearing too many diamonds? I say, emphatically, NO! And in this case, both rings have a level of sentimentality for me that really is quite special.
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| On my left, the wedding set The Mr. put on my hand the day of our wedding. On the right hand, the replacement platinum band with the heart shaped diamond with matching eternity band. |
So, I ask: "Why can't we wear engagement/wedding sets on our right hands as well? Especially sentimental ones? Heck, why can't we stack multiple engagement rings on our right hand like stacking bands? I mean, I can honestly propose that the perfect gift is a new engagement ring every five years to be worn as right hand stacking rings. Makes anniversary shopping easy; wouldn't you say?!
What I would really love to hear are your thoughts! Post a comment below and let me know your thoughts on the right hand engagement ring debate.
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